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Vertical blog graphic for “The Third Choice,” showing an adult hand gently holding a child’s hand on a sunlit path, with baby shoes and a small heart-shaped bead ornament in the foreground. Soft clouds and a glowing cross fade into the background beside the text, “A Story of Faith, Waiting, and Adoption” and “Sometimes the waiting is God’s way of preparing a miracle.”

The Third Choice: A Story of Faith, Waiting, and Adoption

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The Third Choice

I am only one part of this story. My daughter’s birth mother is another. Many people and moments are woven into this beautiful journey, but the full story belongs to my daughter, Remi, and to God.

I believe this story was authored by God Himself. It exists because of what I call the third choice: adoption.

Our culture often tells women that when they find out they are pregnant, they have only two options: have the baby or have an abortion. But there is a third choice: adoption, a choice rooted in life and love.

Adoption can bring beauty, peace, and healing to everyone involved. I feel deeply honored and grateful to share how God brought every person and every piece of this story together in His perfect time. Remi’s birth mother gave me her blessing to share this journey from my perspective. Her exact words were, “Please, please tell it all. No matter what, tell everything.”

Every adoption story follows its own unique path. Each one is a complex weaving of people, choices, and moments, with God’s sovereign hand guiding it all in ways only He can.

Looking back on our journey, I am still amazed by all the pieces that fit together: the people, the prayers, the waiting, and the doors that opened and closed. Every step led to the miracle God had prepared for our family, our precious daughter, Remi, our answered prayer and dream come true.

The Calling

After having four biological children, one right after the other, I was certain our family was complete. Life felt full, busy, and beautiful.

But when our youngest son was still a toddler, something unexpected began stirring in my heart. It was quiet at first, but it grew stronger over time. I felt as if God was gently telling me that He was not finished with our family yet.

The idea of adoption began to grow inside me. What started as a small thought slowly became a dream. Then the dream became a prayer. Eventually, it became a calling I could not ignore.

Over the next seven years, that calling never went away. It stayed with me through every season.

One of my favorite quotes comes from the movie Babe: “Little ideas that tickle and nag and refuse to go away should never be ignored. For in them lie the seeds of destiny.”

That quote perfectly describes how adoption lived in my heart during those years. It was a small voice that kept whispering, reminding me that there was still a child meant to join our family.

You can also listen to Tammy share this story on The Healing in Sharing podcast here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1771834/episodes/19015448

Birth Moms

One thing I know with absolute certainty is that birth mothers do not receive enough honor for their role in the miracle of adoption.

You rarely hear society talk about them. Their courage, their sacrifice, their love—it often goes unseen or unrecognized.

I look at my daughter’s birth mother as a hero in my life. Truly, I see her as an angel.

I cannot begin to imagine the emotions her heart must have carried as she faced the decision she did. What I do know is that she is one of the most selfless and courageous people I have ever known.

Through Remi, our lives are forever connected. There is a bond there that words cannot fully explain. She holds a place in my heart that God created specifically for her.

There are moments and conversations we have shared that will stay with me forever.

And when Remi experiences something special—when she accomplishes something, shows kindness to someone in need, or reveals the beautiful character growing inside her—I feel what I call a double proud-mom moment.

One for me, and one for her birth mother.

Because Remi’s story belongs to both of us in different ways, and the love surrounding her is something truly extraordinary.

The Waiting

There is a lyric from a Tom Petty song that says, “The waiting is the hardest part.” Anyone who has walked through adoption knows just how true that is.

From the moment God placed the dream of adoption in my heart until the moment He placed Remi in my arms, nearly seven years passed.

Those seven years were filled with:

  • Prayers for guidance
  • Research into different types of adoption
  • Closed doors and moments of discouragement
  • Conversations about faith and trust
  • Learning to surrender control to God’s timing

Each step prepared our hearts for the daughter God had already chosen for us.

We explored different options. Should we pursue overseas adoption? Should we work with a local agency? The decisions sometimes felt overwhelming. We didn’t always know where God was guiding us, but we knew in our hearts that He was calling us to move forward.

During this time, my husband bore the burden of protecting our family. He was worried about the chance of heartbreak or disappointment. Adoption demands immense faith, and for him, it meant relinquishing control to something uncertain.

Eventually, it was my husband who felt drawn to pursue domestic adoption within our community. Looking back, I truly believe God placed that direction in his heart to give him peace and confidence in the journey.

By this time, I had been praying for a child through adoption for over five years, and I felt like we hadn’t made any progress. I asked God to please remove the desire for another child if it wasn’t from Him and wasn’t His plan for our family. I let it all go in that moment, crying and thanking Him for the family He had already given me. I told Him that He had blessed me beyond measure. I made peace with surrendering that calling in my heart.

That was a HARD PRAYER.

But the next morning, I woke up knowing it was going to happen.

I felt a peace in my heart that I still cannot fully explain. Deep down, I knew adoption was going to happen. The calling had not come from me. It had come from God.

What I understand now is that we waited nearly seven years for Remi because God knew from the very beginning that she was our daughter. He knew exactly when and how our paths would cross.

Along the way, He closed the wrong doors, nudged us in the right directions, placed people in our lives who would help us, and strengthened our faith through every step.

It was not just a waiting season. It was a preparation season.

Looking back now, I see the beauty in God’s timing. If we had given up when things felt impossible, we would have missed the miracle He had already planned.

Yes, the waiting was hard.

But sometimes the waiting is simply God’s way of preparing the right moment for something extraordinary to arrive.

I leave you with this scripture:

“He decided in advance to adopt us into His own family by bringing us to Himself through Jesus Christ. This is what He wanted to do, and it gave Him great pleasure.”

Ephesians 1:5

~Tammy Tuttle

To hear Tammy share this story in her own words, listen to her episode on The Healing in Sharing podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1771834/episodes/19015448

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Can Faith and Spirituality Coexist?

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Many of us have been taught that we must choose one or the other, but Jax’s story is a powerful reminder that true healing comes from a unified heart. In this episode, she explores the beautiful intersection of faith and spirituality, sharing what it looks like to trust, surrender, and keep moving forward by walking with both.

Listen here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1771834/episodes/18389516

Quick Highlights: What You’ll Learn from Jax’s Journey

  • The “And” Philosophy: Why you don’t have to choose between traditional faith and modern spirituality—and how they complement each other.
  • Trusting the “Knowing”: Recognizing the quiet inner voice (intuition) that often warns or guides us before major life shifts occur.
  • Healing Through Trauma: How Jax managed her husband’s 30-foot fall by blending medical treatment with Reiki, mindset, and intentional energy work.
  • The Power of Language: Why changing your internal narrative from “I am broken” to “I am healing” is a crucial step in physical and emotional recovery.

A Journey of Intuition and Sudden Change

Jax’s story isn’t just about one moment. It’s about a lifetime of learning to trust what she felt, even when she couldn’t explain it.

She grew up with a quiet awareness, a voice, and a feeling that something was guiding her.

Like many people, she didn’t always have the words for it. And like many of us, there were times when it would have been easier to ignore it… to push it aside… to tell herself it wasn’t real.

But it never really left.

As she grew older, that inner knowing became something she could no longer ignore. It showed up in her decisions, in feelings she couldn’t shake, and in moments when she just knew what to do, even if it didn’t seem logical.

And one of those moments changed everything.

She felt a strong urge to sell her home, leave New Jersey, and start fresh. There was no detailed plan. Nothing was certain. So she asked for one more sign to confirm her decision, and she received it!

She listened, trusted, and went.

But as so many of us learn… trusting doesn’t mean easy.

Not long after starting anew, her husband fell about 30 feet while working. In an instant, everything changed. Life became about hospital visits, uncertainty, and a new role she wasn’t ready for: caregiver, provider, and the steady one holding everything together.

And what makes her story even more powerful is this:

Earlier that day, she had attended a Reiki session where the practitioner told her something that had never happened before: they couldn’t ground her energy.

At the time, it didn’t completely make sense.

Looking back, it felt like her body already knew.

The “Knowing”: Trusting Your Inner Voice

There’s something Jax talks about that many people have experienced… but don’t always say out loud.

The knowing.

That gentle voice.
That sensation in your stomach.
That moment when something inside tells you, pay attention.

For Jax, it started in childhood.

She could sense, feel, and know things before they happened.

And while not everyone would describe it the same way, most people have had moments like this:

  • A feeling about someone you couldn’t explain
  • A decision that didn’t make sense on paper but felt right
  • A moment when something told you to pause…or to go.

But here’s what happens to many of us: we question it.

We talk ourselves out of it.
We wait for proof.
We push it aside because it doesn’t fit into what we’ve been taught to trust.

Jax didn’t ignore it.

Even when it didn’t make sense.
Even when it required her to leave everything familiar.
Even when it led her into the unknown.

She listened.

And her decision to trust her feelings became a turning point in her life.

Breaking the “Either/Or” Binary

For a long time, conversations around faith and spirituality have felt divided.

You’re told to choose.

Faith or intuition.
Religion or spiritual gifts.
God or something more difficult to explain.

Jax’s story challenges that completely.

She grew up in a Jewish household.
Her husband comes from a different belief system.
Together, they built a life that didn’t require one to replace the other but allowed both to coexist.

And through her own journey, she had to wrestle with something deeply personal:

How do you honor your faith while also embracing the gifts you know you’ve been given?

What she discovered wasn’t conflict.

It was balanced.

It was understood that:

  • Faith can ground you
  • Spiritual awareness can guide you
  • Intuition can support you

And all of it can coexist

As she says so simply, but so powerfully:

It’s not an “or.” It’s an “and.”

What Life Looks Like When It Tests What You Believe

It’s one thing to talk about faith and spirituality.

Living it is another matter, especially when life changes in a split second.

For Jax, that moment came when her husband fell nearly 30 feet while working.

One second, everything was normal.
The next, she was navigating hospitals, uncertainty, and a totally new reality.

She became the caregiver, the provider, and the steady presence holding everything together for her family.

And this is where her story transforms from mere belief into practice.

Because she didn’t rely on just one thing.

She leaned on both.

Her faith anchored her.
Her intuition led her.
Her spiritual practices strengthened her healing journey.

She practiced Reiki.
She paid attention to her energy.
She focused on the words spoken in her home.
She became intentional about her mindset, environment, and emotional stability.

Not as a substitute for medical care but in addition to it.

She understood something powerful:

Healing isn’t always one path.

It can be:

  • Physical and emotional
  • Medical and spiritual
  • Structured and intuitive

At the same time.

And in one of the most powerful parts of her story, she shares something that still makes her pause.

Earlier that same day, before the accident, she had a Reiki session where the practitioner told her they couldn’t ground her energy… something they had never experienced before.

At the time, it didn’t fully make sense.

But later, it felt like her body already knew something was coming.

Practical Healing: Mindset and Energy Shielding

One of the strongest themes in this conversation is the link between what we carry… and how it resides within us.

The thoughts we repeat.
The words we speak.
The emotions we suppress.

They don’t just disappear.

They settle into the body.
They arrive with tension, pain, and exhaustion.
They wait for a place to go.

And sometimes, healing begins in the simplest but hardest place:

Telling the truth.

Not driven by blame.
Not fueled by anger.
But from a place of letting go.

Jax approaches this in a way that feels both practical and liberating—you don’t always have to relive every detail of the past to heal from it. But you do need to let it go.

Through words.
Through awareness.
By choosing not to hold it in.

Because what you say… shapes how you feel.

And what you repeat… becomes what your mind believes.

That’s where mindset and manifestation begin to matter:

  • Moving from “I’m broken” to “I am healing”
  • Shifting from fear to trust
  • Replacing constant stress with intentional thought

Not in a way that ignores reality but in a way that supports it.

Healing isn’t about pretending everything is okay.
It’s about choosing what you let take root inside of you.

And just as important as what you release is what you allow in.

Jax provides a straightforward yet impactful way to consider shielding your energy.

Imagining boundaries.
Being mindful of who and what has access to you.
Allowing in what supports you.
Keeping out what doesn’t.

Because healing isn’t only about letting go.

It’s also about learning how to safeguard what you’re creating.

You Don’t Have to Choose

If there’s one thing this conversation leaves you with, it’s this:

You don’t need to choose between faith and spirituality.
You don’t have to silence your intuition to maintain your beliefs.
You don’t have to restrict your healing to just one definition.

You are permitted to trust God…
and rely on the knowing inside you.

You are free to heal in ways that feel right to you.
You are free to grow, let go, and start fresh.

And maybe, like Jax’s story shows us

The whisper you’ve been feeling isn’t something to question.

It’s something to listen to.

Listen here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1771834/episodes/18389516

 

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